Wednesday, September 21, 2011

If you can't say anything nice...

Thumper had it right when he said, "If you can't say somethin' nice, don't say nothin' at all."

I should follow that more often. Ya know when you say something without thinking? Or when you say things and you meant them in a completely different way than they were taken? Yup, I am the queen of that. In fact, I thought I'd give you a few examples of some of the slip-ups I've had that I feel awful about but can't take back. We'll start with the oldest first.

This one happened about a year ago, and it still freaks me out to think I said it. Here's the scenario:

It's early and I'm taking Rox potty in a nightie that is probably too short to be seen out in public. I figured it wasn't a big deal because it was so early I wouldn't run into anyone. Silly me, I should have known better, I do live in an apartment complex! Back to the story. So I'm out in this super short nightie taking Rox potty and a very masculine man shows up with a tiny Chihuahua in a frilly dress. Super weird.  So when this "rat dog" sees my sweet little puppy (who is now growling in defense) she goes nuts and starts barking up a storm. The yapping starts a ruckus, which causes neighbors to peek out their windows, making me feel slightly more awkward in my tiny jammies. The man rushed to his mutt and said something like "She thinks she a tough little thing" (about his dog.) Now this is where I slip up. For whatever reason (maybe because he was a big manly looking man) I thought it would be okay to "cuss" (if you will) and I smiled, gestured to Roxie and said "and she's a bitch!" meaning Roxie was a bitch, not the thing in the ruffled dress. He looked at me, his smile faded and he grabbed his dog and walked away. It wasn't until he already had his back turned at some distance that it occurred to me he thought I was talking about his dog! I wanted to stop him and fix my mistake by apologizing, but it was too late, the damage had been done, and remember, I was still in my risque sleeping garment. Up until I moved I kept away from that "potty spot" and made sure to wear a robe when I went out. This may not seem like a big deal, but I still feel terrible, I don't know why I would use the word bitch to someone I have never met, but I did and I feel stupid.

The next one I actually hurt my friend's feelings. This was a total accident, again, and I am truly sorry for it. I won't go too into the story because it's a sensitive subject. (a weight issue.) A group of us girls were working on a school project talking about food. It was late morning and my friend had just come in with pizza.  I said (I meant it jokingly) "well look at her, she'll eat anything!" I want to note that in my defense it was 10 o' clock in the morning and the girl was eating Pizza Hut. So before you judge me what I actually meant by what I said was "it's 10 o' clock and she's eating pizza, so literally she'll eat anything when she's hungry!" In my mind, thats what I had intended it came out to sound like, so my heart broke when she replied quietly, "Well, I guess I do like eat a lot...." The room went silent and I could feel eye daggers piercing me. I was so embarrassed that again, I didn't say anything when I should have. I did try and make a point to tell her subtly later that I think she is beautiful and I do not think she is overweight at all. Because I don't. This story makes me sad writing it. She is a great friend and a beautiful person inside and out and I am lucky to have her in my life!

The last one is just plain stupid. I've been avoiding talking about where I work because I am an interior designer- just an unemployed one! In the mean time, to pay the bills I work as a waitress. I am not ashamed of it, I was just hoping that at the age of 26 I would have a full time job instead, but alas the economy sucks and interior designers are a luxury item not a necessity. So anyways, I'm at work and my restaurant was hosting a charity event "Light The Night Walk" to support the leukemia and lymphoma society, and the server to sell the most donation balloons for the day was awarded a free lunch. Mostly because I took it as a challenge to sell the most balloons and because I wanted to help support the cause, I made it a point to sell the most balloons. At the end of the day I was super excited to have sold over $50.00 for charity and let's face it, I wanted the free lunch, so I gloated to my managers. When one of the managers asked me how I promoted it I simply told her I just asked my tables if they wanted to donate. She asked me if I could explain to her about the event and was irritated when I couldn't. She explained in detail about it (It really is an amazing event held every year at the Angel's Stadium) and then she continued to explain that it was dear to her heart because she has survived cancer once and is fighting stage three melanoma now. I was shocked to hear this and suddenly felt uncomfortable. She asked me if I knew anything about melanoma and this is when I slipped out the zinger. In a stupid bubbly voice I said "Yes, I do! I watch The Big C!" Now, I know that I cannot begin to possibly imagine what this poor woman has been going through to survive and keep a positive outlook on life. I know that I am living life carefree while she is fighting a scary and unfair battle. SO why did I say this? I'm not quite sure. I didn't mean it to sound passive or careless, but it is a good show and I have learned a lot about the disease from it. I did not however think that perhaps a person fighting the disease might not want to watch a show about another woman fighting the disease as well. Or maybe some would. After the look on her face to my response though, I quickly came to realize that she is not one of those women! She has since moved on to another restaurant but I'm sure I have left a lasting impression on her as the dumb blonde.

So there you have it. These are just a few of the ridiculous things I've said and feel bad about! I don't even want to know about the things I've said and didn't register were hurtful- I'm sure my "Blonde Moments" money jar would be spilling over with change!

What have you said? I'd love to hear your silly slip-up stories!

Happy Wednesday Ya'll!


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